Amelia has had her father live with her for a couple of months now. Her elderly father had a stroke and she wanted to help him in any way she could. She was not expecting the recovery to take as long as it has and she started to blame herself. Her feelings of guilt, irritability, and sadness were getting worse and she knew she needed to address it. This scenario may sound familiar to you as a caregiver. Caregiver guilt can occur frequently due to unrealistic self-expectations that cannot usually be met. If you are feeling caregiver guilt, it’s necessary for you to recognize when you feel it as it can impact your own health and care you provide to your loved one. The painful emotions that come from caregiver guilt can be fixed by determining how to accurately reassess your abilities and creating a healthy balance in your life.
Are you feeling other emotions besides guilt? According to Choosing Therapy, the feeling of guilt can result in “reactive cycles” that cause other emotions and symptoms to appear and become cyclical. The following are common signs and symptoms that come with caregiver guilt:
Caregivers tend to frequently try to juggle all their responsibilities at a time. This can cause guilt to emerge because you feel you are falling short in any or all relationships and roles in your life. A research study found that this scenario creates five major factors to result in caregiver guilt.
Caregivers tend to not take care of themselves because they have the belief that their focus needs to be on their responsibilities of taking care of others. However, self-care and reassessing yourself is the best way to address the guilt you are feeling. The reality is to be a good caregiver you need to take care of yourself. This includes recognizing and acknowledging the negative feelings you have related to being a caregiver.
The following tips can help you take more control and address your caregiver guilt:
When Amelia realized she felt caregiver guilt she reached out to her other family members for additional support. She no longer feels overburdened with responsibilities and now recognizes that she is doing enough to be a good caregiver. If you are also feeling caregiver guilt, do the same thing for yourself. Take some time to recognize the emotions you are feeling and seek the support you need.
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